DOMESTIC RELATED PROBLEMS

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 3:01 am

Domestic related problems are on the rise.

I'm not sure if laws are the same in all states but I wanted to share some information in the event someone out there may have a domestic related issue.

In the past year, in East Carroll Parish, LA, there have been three domestic related disputes that resulted in shootings. This past Monday a woman shot her boyfriend following a dispute. Earlier this year a corrections offficer shot and killed his wife. Not long after that another C.O. also shot and killed his wife and then turned the gun on his self.

Some people assume that they can use self-defense as a justification when they shoot someone in the midst of a fight, but an official points out that when a person decides to take a weapon to a confrontation, or when they pull out a weapon in a home because of an argument is taking place, then that goes to premeditation in terms of state of mind since the weapon is being introduced before the altercation begins.

Police say a weapon should never be used unless a persons life is in danger and they are unable to get away from the danger another person is about to inflict upon them.

Police say that if you find yourself in a domestic situation where you could leave and choose to stay and continue the argument until it escalates into violence then it will be tough to argue self defence in court if you shoot or stab somebody.

Experts say such cases are increasing around the country and N. E. Louisiana has seen a steady rise in domestic related shootings over the past five years.

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 10:15 pm

SEVEN RULES OF FIGHTING

1. Be committed to honesty and mutual respect.

2. Make sure your weapons (or words) are not deadly. Keep your anger under control.

3. Agree that the time is right. Not all times are appropriate for fighting.

4. Be ready with a positive solution after a fight. Follow a negative command with a positive encouragement.

5. Watch your words and guard your tone. Eliminate the words, "always" and "never" when referring to anothers shortcomings. Also, remember that "YOU" is taken as an accusation and a persons natural response is to defend themselves against such.

6. Don't fight in the presence others or in public.

7. When it's over, let it go. This involves kindness, tenderness and forgiveness.

These are the rules, Write them down. Memorize them. Talk about them. But most of all....Keep them.

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 12:12 am

Oh yeah the new charge d jour is if your minor children are home and you decide to get it twisted or think you are going to turn the tables on your butt hole husband who may or may not be a Cop but has Beer on his Breath from being out with the fellas and you think your going to tell him to get out or you will call 911 and say he threatened you! Then you can get pinched for "Risk of injury" to your minor children! maybe it will catch on in other parts!
IF YOU LIKED THIS POST WAIT TILL I TELL YOU ABOUT THE MISCONCEPTION WITH CRIME FIGURES AND STATS!

LOOK OUT N.C.!!

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 12:18 am

HEY SPEAKING OF LOUISIANA I GOT A LETTER FROM A WOMAN DOWN THERE WHO ASKED ME TO LOOK INTO ABUSE BY A COURT (?PROSECUTOR) ATTORNEY WHO IS USING HER POSITION TO GET OUT OF CHILD SUPPORT! IT'S ALWAYS SOMETHING!

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 2:03 am

Hey! Those are the rules for both men and women. I didn't say everyone always plays fair.

As far as these attorneys here, I wouldn't be surprised.

When this person that I know divorced his first wife, she took him to the cleaners. Froze his assets, and accused him of abuse, which wasn't true, all because she wanted the money from the sale of the house. She left this person for another man.

And how did she accomplish that, because the lawyer he had convinced him she didn't have any grounds, and it be cheaper to just plead; No contest. It wasn't. She won and took custody of the kids too.

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 4:29 am

Sherry Smith wrote:

As far as these attorneys here, I wouldn't be surprised.

When this person that I know divorced his first wife, she took him to the cleaners. Froze his assets, and accused him of abuse, which wasn't true, all because she wanted the money from the sale of the house. She left this person for another man.

And how did she accomplish that, because the lawyer he had convinced him she didn't have any grounds, and it be cheaper to just plead; No contest. It wasn't. She won and took custody of the kids too.

Sherry
You make an excellent point. Not all professionals have the same level of expertise, competence or standards. Before retaining any licensed professional it’s in ones best interest to conduct due diligence beyond just merely verifying a license.

wm

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 5:54 am

HEY WHERE IS MY POST???

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 6:17 am

Hi LM,

Isn't your post there?

Still waiting for you to tell us about the Misconception with crime figures and stats.

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 6:21 am

LM

Sent you a PM, which post are you referring to?

wm

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 6:53 am

I wrote a whole essay about the domestic violence laws!
the fact that I was in one of the first Police academy classes to teach it!
How wives of Leos can abuse it A case I worked last year that may of set a precedent as I brought an ex cop/wiseguy wanna be that was hitting the ole Viag*ra a little too hard! on Felony Criminal Conspiracy and neglect charges....The deal with C.O. s and all cops and domestics!! real true factual stuff you can't read any where else!

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 5:15 pm

lawmanconfidential wrote:

I wrote a whole essay about the domestic violence laws!
the fact that I was in one of the first Police academy classes to teach it!
How wives of Leos can abuse it A case I worked last year that may of set a precedent as I brought an ex cop/wiseguy wanna be that was hitting the ole Viag*ra a little too hard! on Felony Criminal Conspiracy and neglect charges....The deal with C.O. s and all cops and domestics!! real true factual stuff you can't read any where else!

lawman I was online at the time and never saw your post. I'll check into it.

wm

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 6:13 pm

HEY SHERRI DID YOU READ THAT POST/RESPONSE I WROTE IN RESPONSE TO THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE??

Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 6:20 pm

Wasn't sure where to find it after I got to the page, but I was kinda muti-tasking last night and didn't have a lot of time to look.

Maybe I'll get a chance later tonight. I've got to go grocery shopping in a little while.

Might be easier to find if you just move it here though. I've still got those other cases
of interest I'm following.

Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 5:00 am

ABUSE

Abuse is defined as misuse; to use wrongly; to hurt by treating badly; mistreat; to use insulting, coarse or bad language about or to revile; injury; a bad, unjust, or corrupt custom or practice.

Most people are abused in one way or another during their lifetime. Some common forms of abuse are physical, verbal, emotional,sexual, and rarely spoken of, is ritual abuse. Whatever form it may take, abuse causes a root of rejection.

Abuse--whether it takes the form of broken relationships, abandonment, divorce, false accusations, exclusion from groups, dislike by teachers and other authority figures, ridicule by peers or any one of hundreds of other such hurtful actions--can and do cause emotional wounds which can hinder people in their efforts to maintain healthy, lasting relationships.

Have you been abused? Misused? Treated wrong or improperly? Rejected? Has it affected your emotional state? Do you really want to be healed? Do you want to get well? Not everyone wants to get well badly enough to do what is required. Wounded emotions can become a prison that locks self in and others out. People who are in prison function, but they are not free. Sometimes prisoners--whether physical or emotional--become so accustomed to being in bondage that they settle in with their condition and learn to live with it.

Are you an "emotional prisoner?" If so, how long have you been in that condition? Is it a deep seated and lingering disorder? Do you want to be free of it? Do you really want to be well? If so then you will have to accept personal responsibility. You will have to discover and deal in very practical ways with forgiveness, repressed anger, self-pity, the chip-on-the-shoulder syndrome, the you owe me attitude and many, many other poisonous mental and emotional attitudes that will need cleansing if you are going to be fully well.